(Not-So-Official) Rules of Friendship

Well actually, there are no specified or official rules in friendship. But, i think you must pay attention on this little list. Because from experiences i had in making friends, at some point a friend could forget these and so some problems arise until it can cause breaking in friendship itself. 

#1 RESPECT

This is the most important thing above all. Why? Because sometimes a friend could forget that there's still a boundary on a friendship. It's not because they are your friend so you can do anything you want, throw this kind of thing away → "ah, she is my friend, she knows me so it doesn't matter." For example : jokes. Not every joke could be taken as joke, sometimes it could be taken as an insult by your friend that can hurt them and you don't even realize it. So be careful on that.

#2 BALANCE

This is for you who has a lover. Yes, i know your life isn't only about your friends etc, but also, your life isn't only about your boyfriend/girlfriend. Put some times on your schedule to hang out with your friends not only with your lover. Think about this, when your bf/gf dumped you, whose shoulder you are about to lean while you are crying? It's your friend, isn't it?

#3 SAY IT

Not every silent is a gold, sometimes you have to speak up moreover when you know that your friend do a mistake and of course they don't even realize it that they did a mistake. It's not blaming, it's correcting. If you did't correct their mistake, it is possible for them to do the same mistake again. So, do you still think that silent is always a gold? Big mistake!

#4 FIX IT

When you know you did mistake to your friend, ask for apologize (basic!), but in a case i have before, when my friend asked for apologize in the end she always say, "i'm not perfect, take me just the way i am." Honestly, that's the worst way to apologize. C'mon surely there's no perfect man on earth but at least when you know you do a lot of mistakes but still in the same case, that means there's something wrong with you, go fix yourself first and then ask for apologize.

#5 BE THERE

Basically, friends are not a dustbin. You can't throw only your sadness to them, sometimes they need to see you smile or at least enjoy your life and also don't forget them when you are happy because most of friends come when they are sad or in a big trouble but dissapear when they get over it.

  

#6 FRIENDS AREN'T A PRIVATE PSYCOLOGIST

Don't  treat your friend as your private psycologist. Yes, sometimes it is needed for you to share your problem with them and yes friends always have the best solution and a good listener, but you can't tell them your every single problem! Don't you see they are also a human? Yes, they are just the same as you, they have problems as well! So how come they solve their own problem while you are still asking for your problem's solution? Give your feedback to them. Sometimes you also need to check if they have problem or not. Listen first if you want to be listened.

Basically, the main point of things above is to understand each other. Be a good friend so you can also get so many good friends around you.

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